“A person’s success in life can usually be measured by the number of uncomfortable conversations he or she is willing to have.” -Tim Ferriss
Achieving goals, by definition, usually requires being uncomfortable. Any type of meaningful growth, transformation, or metamorphosis involves an uncomfortable (and sometimes painful) process of changing yourself.
- Becoming physically stronger involves sweating, soreness, and anguish at the gym.
- Becoming emotionally stable might require slow, deep reflection on uncomfortable realizations about yourself and your behaviors.
- Becoming more intelligent might involve abstaining from television and social media in order to read, study, and learn.
For so long, all I wanted to do was come home after work, make dinner, and set up base camp on the couch so I could binge-watch another season of Sons of Anarchy, Breaking Bad, Game of Thrones, or whatever. But you don’t grow in those environments.
At best, that scenario is a temporary escape from reality, maybe even finding rest.
At worst, it’s a perpetuation of behaviors that will ultimately prevent you from becoming your highest self.
At this point, my wife would be reading behind my shoulder, my wife would say, “OK…that’s pretty intense.”
She’s right! But in this world where everything is vying for your attention and money — social media, advertisements, commercials, texts, phone calls, emails, push notifications, online shopping, breaking celebrity news, the Golden Globes award list, your grandpa asking you to do yard work — it’s alarmingly easy to realize your entire week’s free time was spent doing things you’ve been “comfortable” with, and nothing else.
What about the opposite? What does “being uncomfortable” do for me?
- What benefit does taking a freezing cold shower every morning do for me?
- Why should I embarrass myself trying to order Mexican food in my broken Spanish, since the cashier already knows English?
- Why should I wake up at 7am every day when I could wake up at 8am?
I never knew a man to come to greatness or eminence who lay abed late in the morning. -Jonathan Swift
Why should we learn to love being uncomfortable?
Because there is a direct correlation between an increased sphere of comfort and creating an ideal lifestyle.
Taking a cold shower sounds awful, but after 20 seconds, you’ll feel more alive and invigorated than you’ve probably felt in a long time. Practicing your broken Spanish (especially when you’re not “forced” to) teaches you that looking silly isn’t so bad.
“It is possible to condition yourself to discomfort and overcome it.” -Tim Ferriss
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