I have chosen to be fucking awesome.

I have chose to be a great man.

I only realized I even had this choice recently. But the choice is mine. I can be fucking awesome, I can choose to be great.

There are some things I cannot do, even if I “choose” to do them. For instance:

There are issues of ability. I cannot/am unable to run a mile under 5 minutes. I simply cannot do it. Perhaps I could train (which is a choice I can make — to train) and eventually be able to do that. Perhaps not.

There are issues of knowledge. I do not know how a car engine works. I could learn (choose to learn!) and eventually find out more about it, and perhaps even reach a near-full understanding on how a car engine works.

Everything else, I can do. I can be a phenomenal husband, father, and friend. I can be unselfishness, generous, kind, caring, courageous. I can be all these things, and I have chosen to be those things.

I have chosen to be diligent and disciplined, in areas like finance, physical fitness, spiritual growth, and my personal relationships. These are all things I can choose, they are not issues of ability. Some of them have issues of knowledge (OK, I have chosen to be a disciplined individual with my finances. Great — how? How do I make a budget, how do I start investing, what are wise investments?).

The point is, I can choose to do all these things.

And it seems like most people don’t know they can choose.

People say they want all these things — money, happiness, success, lots of friends, self-confidence, whatever. But they aren’t doing those things. They appear to not know they have a choice. Worse still, they seem to believe that in fact, they do not have a choice. That all their outcomes in life — their job, their relationships, their personal finances — are all predetermined and pre-set.

But I choose. I choose to be fucking awesome. Because I can. I can be a great husband, a great person, and love what I do. It’s my choice. I have a choice. I have a choice to quit my job, to treat my wife better, to avoid hanging around bad influences and people who embrace low-quality lives.

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