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A Bad Attitude Guarantees You’ll Never Achieve Massive Success

Your success depends heavily on who you associate with.

“Attitude is greatly shaped by influence and association.” -Benjamin Hardy

Your level of talent and “potential” is irrelevant if you’re surrounded by people who don’t help you realize it.

Most people adapt to whatever environment they find themselves. Since most people’s environments are set up to produce mediocre results, most people’s lives look mediocre.

Unfortunately, most people don’t have a powerful network of close relationships. The biggest decisions of their life are made with the influence of largely-negative individuals with low standards.

Benjamin Hardy once wrote:

“The quality of your life and the quality of your work is determined by the standards you have for yourself, and the standards of those around you.”

Tony Robbins once made the point that your life is a reflection of your standards. What you tolerate is what you get. If you allow mediocrity, your life will be mediocre.

The majority of the world is willing to tolerate unhealthy relationships, poor finances, and jobs they hate. If not so, those things wouldn’t be in their lives.

Truly successful people living extraordinary lives of purpose are extremely rare. Most observers have no idea how to become that successful.

True success starts with attitude. In the words of James Allen, “As a man thinketh, so he is. As he continues to think, so he remains.

If you believe you’ll be successful, you’ll condition your mindset to attract success. But if you have a lazy, negative attitude towards your growth, odds are you won’t experience much success in anything.

Attitude is greatly shaped by influence and association. Who you spend time with has an enormous impact on your attitude, and therefore, future success.

Isn’t that sobering? Who you spend time with has a direct, powerful influence on your future.

If your closest friends have no desire to be successful, it’s very unlikely you’ll achieve enormous success.

It’s like being on a football team where nobody cares enough to play; even a great quarterback can’t win games if nobody else on the team cares.

“Success comes to those who are success-conscious.” Napoleon Hill

Surround Yourself With People Who Force You to Level Up

“I have never seen anyone who was successful who spent much time with people who have bad attitudes.” -Jim Rohn

Winners. Optimists. Doers. Believers.

These are the kinds of friends successful people have.

Incredibly successful people have extremely exclusive friend groups. If you have a bad attitude, if you complain, if you’re pessimistic and negative…it’s very likely you don’t know any successful people.

You probably don’t realize it, but successful people stay away from you if you have a bad attitude.

The most successful people in the world are grateful for just about everything. Problems and obstacles are opportunities to improve. Successful people are generous and help others. They see things not as they are, but how they could be.

“The mediocre have a very narrow perception of reality, and in turn, their lives. They see things as they are and not how they can be.” -Aditya Mehta

Surround yourself with people who force you to level up and become more than you are.

You have so much to learn and so far to go: you can’t afford to commiserate with those who would choose security and stagnation rather than the discomfort of growth.

Hal Elrod once wrote, “Where you are is a result of who you were, but where you go depends entirely on who you choose to be.

I would add that where you go also depends on who you surround yourself with.

You’re on a long journey right now. Thick forests, dry deserts, and frigid mountains lie in your path. You need to pass through all of them to achieve enormous success.

Ask yourself:

Will your current friends help you on this journey?

Or are they the type of people who just want to set up camp and never leave?

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The Mediocre Majority Would Rather You Didn’t Succeed

“For many people, the power of their excuse is more powerful than their dreams.” -Robert Kiyosaki

A friend of mine is an English teacher for a school in South Korea. She loves her life traveling the world and working with kids.

But she told me she’s haunted by what everyone “back home” is trying to tell her. They keep trying to define her success for her: “Come back home, start having kids, and find a job you’ll work at for the next 40 years.”

The majority of people around you would rather you lived a life they approved of.

In the words of Jon Westenberg:

“You’ll never reach a point in your life when people will stop telling you ‘no,’ and stop telling you about the failure you’re going to crash into headlong. It doesn’t matter. Fuck them.”

Your success will always be severely limited if you keep putting more stock in other’s opinions than you do of your own.

You must protect your attitude. Remember, your attitude directly determines future success, and negative people can destroy it. Your thoughts can be greatly shaped through the negativity of those around you.

It is your responsibility who you choose to associate with.

If someone is constantly trying to bring you down, they will probably succeed if you don’t remove yourself. That’s how powerful association is.

Who you hang around is a major determining factor in what your attitude becomes.

Your outer conditions are a reflection of your inner reality.

Ask yourself: Are you currently the person who would attract the level of success you seek?

“Those who build and perpetuate mediocrity are motivated more by the fear of being left behind.” -Jim Collins

You Are a Reflection of Who You Spend Time With

In the words of prolific writer, Nicolas Cole:

“We are all a reflection of who we spend time with.

Spend time with negative people, and you’ll turn negative.

Spend time with positive people, and you’ll turn positive.

It’s just how the Law of Attraction works.

Similarly, if you spend time around people who share the same goal as you, or have a goal that inspires you to work harder toward your own goals, you will move and grow 10x faster.”

Most people are simply a reflection of those around them. If those around you have low standards, it’s likely you’ll lower yours, too.

On the contrary, if the people around you have extremely high standards, you’ll start adopting those standards yourself.

If you find yourself stuck in dead-end routines, it’s likely others around you are experiencing the same problem. You often have the same problems as those around you.

You can’t transmit something you haven’t got — mediocre individuals can’t give extraordinary answers.

Big-time guys like Tony Robbins and Tim Ferriss have revealed they’ve spent tens of thousands of dollars just to be able to join a few Skype calls with other high-powered individuals.

Why? Because they understand if they surround themselves with people who hold them to a higher standard, their lives will improve dramatically. Their own standards will raise in response.

Back in the 1930’s, C.S. Lewis and J.R.R. Tolkien were largely unknown authors. But once they joined the exclusive writing group dubbed “The Inklings,” their quality went from average to extraordinary.

Through relentless feedback of far better writers, Lewis and Tolkien’s writing became 10x better than it was before. The quality of their writing began to reflect the much-higher quality of others.

You are a reflection of who you spend your time with.

Do you hang out with winners who care deeply about their personal growth?

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Surround Yourself With People Who Hold You to Higher Standards Than Your Own

“If you want to improve and succeed in your life, you need to surround yourself with people who have higher standards than you do.” -Benjamin Hardy

If you’re feeling stuck and struggling to make the progress you want, take a look around you.

Do these people hold you to a high standard? Or, do they hold you to an even lower standard than you hold yourself?

Most people perpetuate mediocrity. They don’t bother to make even the most basic self-improvements, let alone worry about your growth.

Said Bruce Lee:

“What you habitually think largely determines who you will become.” -Bruce Lee

Are you surrounded by people who will hold you to a higher standard than you do yourself?

Most people aren’t. They continue living lives that are, frankly, mediocre.

When I was growing up, I constantly used pornography as a crutch to get through the day. I always felt guilty and ashamed of it, but I never told anyone. I had no support.

Eventually, I finally decided to go to counseling for my addictive behavior. I met dozens of men and women who were now living lives free from other toxic addictions.

Without them, I don’t think I would’ve stopped. I didn’t believe I could have a fulfilling life without my crutch.

They began challenging me to do things I thought were literally impossible. They held me to a far higher standard than I held myself.

I haven’t looked at pornography in years. Now, I hold others to a higher standard than they do themselves.

Surround yourself with people who have far higher standards than you do.

In Conclusion

I refuse to work with people who aren’t smart, hardworking, disciplined or passionate about what they do.” -Nischal Shetty

It’s your responsibility who you hang out with.

Darren Hardy once said, “You cannot see what you don’t look for, and you cannot look for what you don’t believe in.” Most people don’t believe in their own success. They’ll never achieve success if they don’t first believe in it.

Believing in your success is greatly influenced by who you associate with.

Do you associate with winners? Are they optimistic about life? Are they excited about growth and have clear goals?

Or are they whiny and complain about how unfair life is? Do your friends have any meaningful goals? Do they believe they can succeed, or are they content to continue tolerating mediocrity?

Who you associate with largely determines how you see the world.

Surround yourself with winners. Make an effort to associate with people who are determined to succeed. Their success will rub off on you.

Attitude is greatly shaped by influence and association. Guard yourself from negative attitudes, and spend time building relationships with those who will make you a better version of yourself.

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