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Most people’s goals are going to suck.

This month, millions of people across the world will be setting goals for the new year.

Most of these goals will not be reached.

Behavioral change is difficult. Sustaining transformation and following-through aren’t easy for anybody. It’s no secret most New Year’s resolutions will fail, and that by January 30 most people will be doing the same things they were doing on December 31.

Best-selling author Darren Hardy once wrote, “To get different results, you’re going to have to do things differently.”

Most people are not thinking about their goals the right way.

Most goals are largely unfocused, unspecific, and without a plan for successful long-term sustainability. Most people bite off more than they can chew, and make the same goals as everyone else. …


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You achieve goals based on the emotions you attach to them. If there aren’t emotions behind your goal, you won’t achieve it.

It took me years of trying (and failing) to “go to the gym” before I realized: I just didn’t care. Sure, it would’ve been nice to look like a Greek god statue, but deep down, it didn’t really matter to me. Not really. So I stopped trying to get six-pack abs and focused on goals that actually did matter to me: quitting my job, working for myself, and writing full-time.

All these goals I achieved and more. They meant something to be, and there were rock-solid emotions behind each goal. Quitting my job meant I could have freedom. Working for myself meant I could travel the world with my wife (we did). Writing full-time meant I could do what I loved every single day. …


#5: Don’t share secrets that aren’t yours to tell.

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1. Demonstrate That Your Mind Can Be Changed

“Continued to take personal inventory and when we were wrong promptly admitted it.” -Step 10, Alcoholics Anonymous

Most people are too prideful to say three simple words that, if said, would make people respect them significantly more:

I was wrong.

Most people’s fears of looking stupid stop them from building truly beautiful and meaningful relationships. Their insecurity and pride prevent them from connecting with people — their relatives at Christmas dinner, over dinner on a Tinder date, even in the bedroom with their spouse.

I have enormous respect for people who demonstrate their minds can be changed. …


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How to have an old person’s wisdom in a young person’s body

“Young people are stupid. Old people are wise. Which do you want to be?” -Ryan Holiday

Most people are following a very conventional path right now.

They’re planning on doing things when everybody else does them. They’re getting the same kinds of jobs, spending money on the same kinds of things, and spending their time in the same ways as everyone else.

Most people are triggered by the actions of others, living in a constant state of reaction, instead of proactive progress towards their goals.

As a result, most people are broke, empty, and behind the game.

In the words of Neil…


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Repetition is tedious, which is why most people don’t succeed

“Repetition can be boring or tedious — which is why so few people ever master anything.” -Hal Elrod

Most people change gradually and unconsciously over time. These changes usually aren’t that good.

Small things always grow into big things. The little habits now (both good and bad) always develop into bigger, more prominent behaviors.

C.S. Lewis once described humans and our behaviors like an egg. “You cannot go on indefinitely being just an ordinary, decent egg,” he said. “You must be hatched, or go bad.” …


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In his autobiography Shoe Dog, Phil Knight, the founder of Nike, mused about his sudden success when he first began selling shoes.

“I’d been unable to sell encyclopedias, and I’d despised it to boot. I’d been slightly better at selling mutual funds, but I’d felt dead inside. So why was selling shoes so different? Because, I realized, it wasn’t selling. I believed in running. People, sensing my belief, wanted some of that belief for themselves.”

When you sincerely believe in what you’re doing, you’ll get followers.

When you believe in yourself, you’ll get influence, attention, admiration, and respect.

Why? Self-belief is rare. As someone who struggles with anxiety and constant self-doubt, I’m drawn to the self-assured, focused individual. I want what they have. …


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In the past four years, I’ve gone from a no-name blogger to an author, coach, and top online writer earning more money than I’d ever made behind a corporate job desk.

My main topic? Self-help.

I’ve spent a lot of time on self-help, both using it in my life and teaching others what I’ve learned. I’ve read countless books, bought online courses, hired coaches, and created a ton of self-help products that thankfully, have gotten great reviews from my customers.

But there are lot of rampant problems with self-help, and not everyone feels the same way about the industry.

I’ve met countless cynics who claim self-help is total B.S. They claim it’s run by rich white gurus who take advantage of people by promising empty solutions that don’t really help anyone. Others claim self-help doesn’t even work, it’s just a scam to take your money. …


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There are some careers where you simply can’t get rich.

I worked in corporate America for five years. After 60 months working for The Man, I realized a blunt, brutal truth that cannot be denied:

The only way I could make more money was if my boss allowed me to.

And most of the times, my boss hated me or was so dysfunctional no one could rise through the ranks.

This lesson has several blunt caveats, too.

First: You’ll never make more money than your boss. Their ceiling is your ceiling. If your boss isn’t rich, you certainly won’t be getting rich at the company, either.

Next: Effort usually doesn’t scale. As best-selling marketer Seth Godin put it: “The eager-beaver employee expends extra effort to make a mark but soon learns that it doesn’t scale.” Twice the effort usually doesn’t mean double the money. …


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Break other people’s power over you.

When I was in 7th grade, there were a bunch of really pretty girls in my grade who I desperately wanted to impress.

The thing was, they liked a bunch of my friends, who were Filipino. I began studying these guys — what did they have that I didn’t? How could I be more like them, so the girls would like me?

Well my 7th grade pea brain did some simple logic:

  • My Filipino friends didn’t have hairy legs — I did.
  • Pretty girls liked my Filipino friends.
  • Solution = shave my legs.

I remember being in the shower that night, scared to go through with it. But hey, pretty girls were on the line. So I took a deep breath, and shaved one long strip of hair off my shin. …


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“We must all suffer from one of two pains: the pain of discipline or the pain of regret. The difference is discipline weighs ounces while regret weighs tons.” -Jim Rohn

I’ve been playing video games my whole life. In lots of ways, life is lot like a video game — you have to learn new skills to improve, it takes time to evolve, and finally beating the hardest boss is one of the best feelings in the world.

But there’s one key way life is completely unlike video games:

In real life, you only get one chance.

And sadly, most people are wasting their chance every day. …

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Anthony Moore

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