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“An individual is free only to the extent of his own self-mastery. Those who will not govern themselves are condemned to find masters to govern over them.” -Steven Pressfield

1. Don’t Watch Commercials

Commercials offer you virtually 0% value. They are psychologically designed to capture your attention and make you buy something — regardless if you actually should.

Extraordinary, focused people are never “sold” anything. They decide what they want, then they buy it. Everything else is just distractions and propaganda.

2. Don’t Take Advice From Almost Anyone

“Never ask advice of someone with whom you wouldn’t want to trade places.”

-Darren Hardy, The Compound Effect

If you want an extraordinary…

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“Every time you say yes to something you don’t want to do, this will happen: you will resent people, you will do a bad job, you will have less energy for the things you were doing a good job on, you will make less money, and yet another small percentage of your life wi be burned up.” -James Altucher

You can lie to yourself, but you can’t lie to your body.

A lot of people woke up today and convinced themselves: “this is fine.” Their life has become full of duties, obligations, debts, and schedules that demand their attention —…

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1. Don’t Let Anyone Define “Success” For You

In the words of Srinivas Rao, host of The Unmistakable Creative podcast:

“At some point, I realized that I had to give up other people’s definition of success. This is one of the most difficult things to give up because it is so deeply embedded in our cultural narratives that it becomes the standard by which we measure our lives. Even as entrepreneurs we have collectively agreed that fame and fortune are the markers of success.

But, giving up other people’s definition of success is incredibly liberating and ultimately leads to the fullest expression of who you are and what…

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“Your level of success will rarely exceed your level of personal development, because success is something you attract by the person you become.” -Hal Elrod

If you’re as clever, wise, shrewd, smart, bold and courageous as you can be, you will attract success. You won’t be able to help it.

Sadly, most people don’t get this. Instead, most people try to chase success through selfishness and self-seeking motivation. They also have a very narrow definition of success: i.e. lots of money, fame, and power to rule.

But the world’s most successful, influential, and wealthy people don’t chase success. They upper-tier…

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“World class performers don’t have superpowers. But they’ve crafted rules that make it look that way.” -Tim Ferriss

Most people aren’t disciplined. They can’t say they consistently sit down and do the thing they should be doing.

Of course, just about everyone wants to be disciplined. But for some reason, they just can’t seem to be consistent. Maybe they can start strong and do really good at the beginning…but in the end, their energy dies a slow but sure death.

We’ve all heard stories of great self-discipline and immense self-control. These stories usually involve famous people, tech founders, or professional…

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“Greatness is not a function of circumstance. Greatness, it turns out, is largely a matter of conscious choice.” -Jim Collins, Good to Great

A few weeks ago, I was having coffee with a mentor. He’s about to celebrate his 34th year of sobriety from alcohol.

I’ve been involved in my own 12-step program for over eight years now — I’m familiar with how it works. But what he told me next turned my core beliefs upside down.

The truth is, it doesn’t matter if you go to meetings,” he said simply. “Meetings won’t make you sober. …

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Most people don’t have high self-assurance.

This is largely because they’re not clear on what they want or where they’re headed.

The vast majority of people act cautiously and are reluctant to commit to long-term choices, and often only commit if they have a backup-plan in case things go sour.

This hesitation isn’t “wisdom” or “thinking things through,” though. It’s fear.

This indecisiveness exists because most people don’t even really know where they’re going. Their destination is unclear; their focus is foggy and confusing.

Said author Darren Hardy, “Most people drift through life without devoting much conscious energy to figuring…

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“Repetition can be boring or tedious — which is why so few people ever master anything.” -Hal Elrod

The difference between the professionals and the dreamers is that the professionals actually become students of their craft.

They study it. They buy books about it. They ask others about it.

They live and breathe learning and improvement.

It’s not just 10,000 hours of it, either. Becoming a student means developing your deep work abilities. It means you practice deliberately. Simply put, an accountant can still be a terrible accountant after 10 years of work.

Most people will never take the time…

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Prolific motivational speaker Jim Rohn said that, many years ago.

“If you want to have more success, you need to become more.”

Up until about a year ago, I wasn’t living up to my potential. Like most people, I was stuck in a mediocre life.

I was at a job that wasn’t a good fit for me. I was in school for a degree that I don’t use now. I was overweight, lazy, and busy all the time. I drank too much.

I finally decided to change. I graduated and quit my job. My wife and I moved to South…

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“Successful people do what unsuccessful people are unwilling to do.” -Darren Hardy, former editor of SUCCESS Magazine

The truth is, most people are making choices based on avoiding what they fear, not striving toward their goals.

This fear-driven behavior is exactly why most people are no on-track to succeed. When fear is calling the shots, you are living reactively, not intentionally. You spend the lion’s share of your energy focusing on problems, risks, and worst-case scenarios rather than how to win.

It’s human nature to choose the familiar, the convenient, the easy. I’m no exception. For most of my teenage…

Anthony Moore

Writer for CNBC, Business Insider, Fast Company, Thought Catalog, Yahoo! Finance, and you. Come say hey.

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