“The time that leads to mastery is dependent on the intensity of our focus.” -Robert Greene, Mastery
If you practice something five times a day (and actually learn from it, of course), while other people only do it once a month, that means you’ll gain 5 months of experience in a single day.
Within one month, you’ll have the experience that takes most people a decade to learn.
For every day you keep going, thousands of others quit. Think of all the ground you’re gaining on the competition, every single day.
But most people simply won’t bother to put in the practice and effort to become better. “Bloggers” post a few random times a month. Would-be coaches might have a client every once in a while. Coders, programmers, and designers fool around with their software, but only when they need to. …
“When we are not chosen, we feel bad. When we are chosen — even by idiots — we feel good. We need to unlearn this imprisonment. Not dissect and analyze it. Just completely unlearn it.” -James Altucher
Most people live their daily lives trying to please others.
It’s how I used to live. In high school, I remember being constantly disgusted with myself for being such a doormat. I was a total pushover, because I was afraid if I said no, or stood up for myself, people would reject me.
I needed to be chosen — by cute girls, by the basketball coach, by my teacher, by the guys in drum line. So I did things for people even when I knew I wasn’t being myself at all. …
Some books are like an ice cold glass of water on a hot day. They’re immediately refreshing, and you finish the entire book in one sitting.
Others are like a fine, 20-year old oak barrel-aged Cabernet Sauvignon. You don’t want to rush it. You can’t.
Just like every small sip comes with a new world of flavors and smells, every paragraph of these 13 books brings paradigm-breaking truths and powerful knowledge you must absorb slowly in order to implement the principles in your life.
These type of books are often more difficult to read. They require patience, deliberate thinking, and time away from reading to process and implement the knowledge. …
This month, millions of people across the world will be setting goals for the new year.
Most of these goals will not be reached.
Behavioral change is difficult. Sustaining transformation and following-through aren’t easy for anybody. It’s no secret most New Year’s resolutions will fail, and that by January 30 most people will be doing the same things they were doing on December 31.
Best-selling author Darren Hardy once wrote, “To get different results, you’re going to have to do things differently.”
Most people are not thinking about their goals the right way.
Most goals are largely unfocused, unspecific, and without a plan for successful long-term sustainability. Most people bite off more than they can chew, and make the same goals as everyone else. …
You achieve goals based on the emotions you attach to them. If there aren’t emotions behind your goal, you won’t achieve it.
It took me years of trying (and failing) to “go to the gym” before I realized: I just didn’t care. Sure, it would’ve been nice to look like a Greek god statue, but deep down, it didn’t really matter to me. Not really. So I stopped trying to get six-pack abs and focused on goals that actually did matter to me: quitting my job, working for myself, and writing full-time.
All these goals I achieved and more. They meant something to be, and there were rock-solid emotions behind each goal. Quitting my job meant I could have freedom. Working for myself meant I could travel the world with my wife (we did). Writing full-time meant I could do what I loved every single day. …
“Continued to take personal inventory and when we were wrong promptly admitted it.” -Step 10, Alcoholics Anonymous
Most people are too prideful to say three simple words that, if said, would make people respect them significantly more:
I was wrong.
Most people’s fears of looking stupid stop them from building truly beautiful and meaningful relationships. Their insecurity and pride prevent them from connecting with people — their relatives at Christmas dinner, over dinner on a Tinder date, even in the bedroom with their spouse.
I have enormous respect for people who demonstrate their minds can be changed. …
“Young people are stupid. Old people are wise. Which do you want to be?” -Ryan Holiday
Most people are following a very conventional path right now.
They’re planning on doing things when everybody else does them. They’re getting the same kinds of jobs, spending money on the same kinds of things, and spending their time in the same ways as everyone else.
Most people are triggered by the actions of others, living in a constant state of reaction, instead of proactive progress towards their goals.
As a result, most people are broke, empty, and behind the game.
In the words of Neil…
“Repetition can be boring or tedious — which is why so few people ever master anything.” -Hal Elrod
Most people change gradually and unconsciously over time. These changes usually aren’t that good.
Small things always grow into big things. The little habits now (both good and bad) always develop into bigger, more prominent behaviors.
C.S. Lewis once described humans and our behaviors like an egg. “You cannot go on indefinitely being just an ordinary, decent egg,” he said. “You must be hatched, or go bad.” …
In his autobiography Shoe Dog, Phil Knight, the founder of Nike, mused about his sudden success when he first began selling shoes.
“I’d been unable to sell encyclopedias, and I’d despised it to boot. I’d been slightly better at selling mutual funds, but I’d felt dead inside. So why was selling shoes so different? Because, I realized, it wasn’t selling. I believed in running. People, sensing my belief, wanted some of that belief for themselves.”
When you sincerely believe in what you’re doing, you’ll get followers.
When you believe in yourself, you’ll get influence, attention, admiration, and respect.
Why? Self-belief is rare. As someone who struggles with anxiety and constant self-doubt, I’m drawn to the self-assured, focused individual. I want what they have. …
In the past four years, I’ve gone from a no-name blogger to an author, coach, and top online writer earning more money than I’d ever made behind a corporate job desk.
My main topic? Self-help.
I’ve spent a lot of time on self-help, both using it in my life and teaching others what I’ve learned. I’ve read countless books, bought online courses, hired coaches, and created a ton of self-help products that thankfully, have gotten great reviews from my customers.
But there are lot of rampant problems with self-help, and not everyone feels the same way about the industry.
I’ve met countless cynics who claim self-help is total B.S. They claim it’s run by rich white gurus who take advantage of people by promising empty solutions that don’t really help anyone. Others claim self-help doesn’t even work, it’s just a scam to take your money. …